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6 Apr

Like every other fresh graduate, I had a dream of doing something right after completion of my bachelors course. And, I was almost sure that within 3 months I would have at least figured something out, may it be studying abroad or working somewhere. What I hadn’t expected was that I would be passing my days just by attending GRE classes, watching series at home and doing nothing else. During the time when I was doing GRE, I wasn’t much worried. I mean I was still attending classes. Okay, I wasn’t studying for the test at home or anything but at least, I was STUDYING! But then, after four long months (during which I still wasn’t sure what I wasn’t going to do), the classes were over as well. And, then came the time when I could no longer avoid the fact that I was still in the same stage where I was four months back. Everyone is really impatient to do something right after college, at least that’s what I think. With big hopes and dreams of a happy future, it feels like there is nothing you can’t do. But, then comes reality. And, it hits you hard in the face. I admit trying to get into the workforce straight-away was never what I wanted. I want to do my post-graduate study and I wanted to do it abroad. Four years of undergraduate course had already made me realize that I didn’t want to study at home. But, after hearing my elders’ thoughts, I started thinking that it would be good, better actually, to get a job in my field of study, broaden my knowledge, try to know more what I want to study in future and then only pursue further studies. So, I started looking for jobs. I dreamed of getting a job, going to work, coming home and then reading or watching some series, telling my parents about what happened at work and everything. I had even planned what I wanted to do with my first salary! My dream-world tends to get quite extensive once I start thinking about it. Obviously, none of it came true. But, I got a few workplace and interview experiences to share. And, let me tell you, none of it was pleasant! I felt humiliated, I almost broke down into tears right in front of some random person sitting behind the desk across me. Thinking back, I don’t feel bad about any of them now. In a way, I learnt a lot. I learnt that things don’t go as you plan them to go, you have to hear harsh words from the people you didn’t know, you have to toughen up to face whatever comes your way. Now if I think about those past experiences, I am filled with a different type of positive energy, like I would never let things like that happen again. So, I am, in a sense, glad for whatever happened at that time.

Thus, there went my dream of getting a job and doing all the things that I had planned. And, I went back to my first decision; abroad study, which also didn’t go as I had expected it to. Abroad study isn’t easy for people like me who are an average B grade student and who come from a middle-class background. I know people face many problems, might have to face rejections in several stages, might have to even divert from the path they wanted to continue on but at that time it felt like I was the only one who was getting all these problems. It’s common form of human nature, when something bad happens to you, you assume that it happens only to you and everyone else had it easy even though you don’t know their story. At one point, I even felt like I had hit the rock bottom; I had grown so pessimistic, I wanted to detach from everyone. I had started to feel that my life would be forever stuck in that stage, definitely not getting better, maybe just worse. I couldn’t sleep properly, I didn’t want to meet my friends or relatives, I didn’t want to go out, I didn’t want to do anything rather than stay in my own room. My visa process didn’t run smoothly due to so many reasons (read “due to irresponsible people not doing their job properly”). But, one thing that made it easy to get through all that was my parents’ constant support throughout that stage. They never did give up, they were in fact more worried than me about what would happen and tried so so hard to help me get what I wanted. Finally, all that paid off and off I flew. After coming here, all my previous worries and problems seemed laughable. I always knew life would be hard here but I didn’t have a clear idea of to what extent. I am like, “was I seriously thinking that my life was hard THEN?”. Still, I can’t say that I had a really difficult life after coming here. Of course there are some people who have had it much easier than me but there are others as well who had to go through so much more than I can ever imagine. But, I started getting used to the life here; I adjusted pretty well to the new environment. It is a totally different life for me, a whole lot of new challenges, and a whole new level of independence which is now working well I guess. There will always be new hardships along the way, the never-ending saga of troubles but you just have to know that you have it in you to overcome the bad phase in life and move on; you really need to have faith in yourself;you need to see the silver lining in the cloud.

Change

6 Apr

Recently, I have sort of accepted the fact that things will change for the better sooner or later. I have come to know that all we can do is continue with our lives even during the hardest times, even when you feel like there is no other alternate path that you can follow. And, as if by some miracle, things turn around for the good.Well, even when things don’t exactly turn around for the good, you know, when they just change to something we hadn’t anticipated, we get used to it and after a while that adaptation feels so easy that we feel things have become much better. Consider a simple example of getting in to a school. We all might have had different schools that we wanted to go to (which we didn’t). And, hence we “settle for” some other school, maybe even one where we had never thought of setting a foot in. We go there, we make friends, create different memories. Gradually, we start thinking like it was always supposed to be; it feels like it was better that we didn’t get into the one that we wanted to get in in the first place. And, we even start imagining that if given a chance to do it all over again, we would definitely not aim for our first choice of school. So, even if things don’t exactly turn all happy and bright, time definitely creates a comfortable pattern to which we can fit in.

Correction

26 Jun

Okay! So I know people won’t check the essays I had written previously as samples while preparing for IELTS examination but still I wanted to correct the mistakes I had made there. Well I had not taken preparation classes in an institute so I had almost no practice for writing and speaking. Sure I used to look in the mirror and speak in the allocated time, write essays and such but who could evaluate that? This is not an excuse for my horribly-wrong writing style, but I just wanted to explain it. The opening line of my essays is incorrect (really shows how well prepared I was while writing these, right?). I have copied the essay topics as they were. Never, and I mean NEVER do this. You can paraphrase it, twist it around, or do anything but don’t copy it down. This may even result in loosing marks.

Another thing is about diagram explanations. I haven’t written them here but I wanted to say something about them as well. You are given a diagram of some sort, it maybe a chart or a process diagram and you need to explain it. There is word limit mentioned. And while you get penalized for writing in less words, writing more than mentioned won’t cost you marks(as the rules suggest). Nevertheless, over-lengthy writing is also not that appreciated so you have to try your best to manage it in the given word count. While comparing diagrams, remember to use words and phrases such as doubled, five times as that in, soared high, peaked in, plummeted, rose dramatically, declined steadily rather than using rose and fell. And, also don’t waste your time comparing each and every detail; take some time to understand the diagram and pick out only the MAJOR points. These tips will be mentioned in the books as well.

The last thing, for the second task, you need to be careful while selecting the phrases. Instead of writing “obviously”, you can write “there is not a shadow of doubt over the fact that”. You can use “there is a school of thought that”, “it has been said for years that” and phrases like that. While starting, it might be helpful to say “some people think that….while others argue…” or “the matter of….is among the many that have attracted a lot of attention and caused debate over the years”. There are others like these as well. I just mean that instead of writing it plainly, you need to give it a bit literary touch but not just by using big words and all. You don’t need to make it complex, but replace some common words and stuff so that they sound better while reading. And, don’t start your first paragraph with “first and foremost” and second by “secondly” as I have done. Use the phrases in their place; it certainly enhances the quality.

I am no expert in this matter and I don’t have that great score in writing to show. But, these tips really helped me a lot and I just wanted to share them.

A Man’s World

17 Jun

They don’t say “it’s a man’s world” without any reason. No matter whether we are in the first or the twenty-first century, women still don’t get the respect they deserve. Everything we do is judged and commented upon whether we like it or not. If we don’t get good marks in exam, we obviously spent too much time on making ourselves look pretty rather than we did studying. And, if we get good marks, it’s like exam grades don’t say anything; even if a girl tops it, she won’t actually make the cut in the world because no matter how less guys score than us, they definitely know more, more “real” stuff. And, all we know about is nail and hair care! But, if a guy gets the highest grades: wow he’s really talented, he studies so hard and can obviously do a lot after graduating. What do girls do after graduating? Get married, have a family and look after them! The fact that there are people who say they are living in the twentieth century and still believe in nonsense like this is sick.

Everyone wants to look and feel beautiful; we just express it more. Guys having mohawk or that pin-pointy spiky hair or dreadlocks or long hair or whatever that’s not natural is sooooo “awesome” and all. If we get extensions or try to do anything with our hair, we are simply fake and just care about our looks. Before labeling us as “fake”, just know that guys aren’t the exact examples of real. So we want to look good, is that a crime? We love being complimented, but only in a good way. It makes us feel happy when people whom we know and care about give us compliments, but that definitely doesn’t mean we want to hear it from every other guy. The problem is guys don’t seem to understand this. If we act friendly and talk sweetly with some guy, we are big flirts; we are leading them on. And, if we don’t, we are mean stuck up bitches who don’t care about others. So we can’t be nice and we can’t even be not-nice. Guys talking about sports and gadgets and everything all the time is just so cool but girls talking about their wardrobe or television dramas or fashion or books is the exact opposite. They say the only thing most girls ever talk about is fashion and stuff. So what? If it’s something that we are interested in, we will talk about it all we want. No-one asks guys to shut up when they are going on and on about their interests. If we don’t get good marks on lab viva, it’s because we don’t have the knowledge; only guys know all the practical stuff, girls just do well in theory exams. And, if we do get them, it’s all because we batted our eyelashes and kept on playing with our hair while the examiner (a guy) was questioning us or the examiner (a girl) just gives good marks to girls only. This, actually, makes me wonder. I mean the ones that think like this are boys and this proves that they think another guy would give out good grades to a pretty girl just like that. Doesn’t that mean they would also do the same if they were in the same place? Girls getting cosmetic surgeries is being plastic, the fakest thing one could imagine. And, guys getting tattoos and all those horrifying piercings! What could be more awesome in this world? When girls go on a special diet and work out whether to stay fit or to get thin, they simply are artificial; just caring about their looks, not eating properly, caring more about their body shape rather than their health. But, when guys do the same, all they hear is how good they are treating their body; having 6 or 8 or whatever packs is the “manly” thing to do. They want to feel good about their body, well so do we. We don’t want to be in a good shape just to get guys like they think. Them thinking like that only means all the gym hours and heavy exercising is just so that girls would notice them. Pathetic! They say girls love gossiping and back-biting and talking about others. I won’t deny it. But, guys are not saints either! Don’t we know how they are commenting on every little thing a girl does? If we wear skin-tight jeans, they have to comment about it. And, if we wear ill-fitting jeans, they HAVE to comment about it. Why can’t those holy saints mind their own business? There are guys who would not even read a book just because it was written by a female author. If guys get to the top level, they worked genuinely hard and so deserved it. If girls do, they obviously slept their way through. I have seen enough offensive posts and tweets about girls to say with confidence that no matter how far the world has progressed, most people’s brains still need to undergo massive development.

Guys say they can’t understand girls all the time. If they for once stopped judging us and actually tried, maybe they would realize that we are not that hard to understand. They just need to learn to respect, actually respect the differences. In countries like ours, this can be blamed on the fact that sons are always favored. Coming from a family with two daughters, I have heard my parents being asked “just two daughters, no son?” and me and my sister being asked “no brothers” so many times. And, I have seen “educated” and “broad-minded” people of twenty-first century feeling the need to have a son even when they already have two, three or more daughters! Maybe this has made the guys think they are some sort of special beings or whatever. Maybe that’s why they think it’s their birth right to call girls superficial, shallow, fake, untalented people without even looking at themselves in the mirror. I don’t mean to say all guys are like that. There are some who fall so rightly in that category, some only slightly and there are guys who don’t feel like that. But, deep down, most of the guys still feel this way and this sometimes makes me feel ashamed to be a part of this world.

A brief introduction

19 Apr

It’s just the fifth season but it has already become a type of drama that I would never recommend anyone to watch! Any guesses to which show I’m talking about? I can almost feel like I’m watching the Ekta Kapoor serials, you know the same story going on and on again. Nothing new happens ever but still you watch the new episode (and tweet how much you disliked the current episode afterwards). The same plotting, scheming, pairing, events, the only thing that has changed since season one is that they are no longer in high school! You must have known the name of the show by now. Yes, it is Gossip Girl, the show in which you can’t expect anything exciting to happen these days.

Let me give you a brief history of the show. Serena, Blair, Nate and Chuck are the Upper East Siders and friends since childhood. Serena and Blair, Nate and Chuck are best friends. B and N had been dating since kindergarten but during high school N falls for S. N and S end up sleeping together and afterwards S leaves town. Now B and S are no longer friends. B and N are still dating in the first episode but when S returns N’s feelings can’t stay true to B. While N is too busy to pay attention to B, she cheats on him with C. God knows what happens to N then but he again starts loving B once again. But, poor C, he has also fallen deeply for B! N breaks up with B when he learns about her and C. Then starts the whole B and C thing, they like each other but something always stops them from being together. I recall B getting back together with N for a short duration but this time B breaks up with N. Confused already? Don’t be, there’s more. What happened to S during this whole time? If N and S weren’t together then who did she date? Enter Dan, Lonely Boy from Brooklyn whose sister lil J for me is one of the most annoying characters after B and S themselves. S and D are so in love, working out their differences perfectly. But, what can they do against fate? Turns out S’s mom and D’s dad had been in love when they were young and, after all these years, decide to get married. So from being lovers they go to being to brother and sister!

I’m gonna leave all other characters and just concentrate on these five people. So, S and D are not together, B and C never seem to be ready to get committed to each other (no-one knows why) and N is the hottest, cutest guy on the Upper East Side. S and B go back to being best friends but Gossip Girl keeps coming between them and well they also let her. After high school, B and D attend college just for few episodes. Obviously, who has the time for college when they are too busy plotting against their friends and family? C and B go on and off, on and off over and over again. Sometimes a prince, sometimes an accident, sometimes another girl and a list of things prevent them from being together. When they finally get a chance of the happiness they have always dreamed, B chooses otherwise. I’ll get to that later, now let’s move on to S, N and D. N always had a thing for S so after everything he still wants to be with her in third or fourth season. Apparently D can’t also forget about her. After an series of Tripp, Carter, Vanessa, a character Hilary Duff played, Juliet and so on in these three characters lives, S has to choose between N and D. But, all it took was one evil move from Juliet and lil J, and both the guys choose not to be with her.

Afterwards, D and B set off on a mission together for helping S. Well we had S and N, S and N, B and N, B and C (the only thing that stopped the writers from creating a S and C pair might have been the fact that before marrying D’s dad, S’s mom had married C’s dad making them brother and sister). So now the only pairing left is B and D, and of course we have it. Somehow Dan Humfrey, Lonely Boy from Brooklyn ends up liking Blair Waldorf, the Upper East Side princess and more surprisingly, B returns his feelings. Oh, I almost forgot to mention B getting pregnant at the age of 19 and ready to marry Prince Louis before all this happened. But as she is still in “love” with C, Louis doesn’t accept their marriage. On her wedding day, she confesses how much she loves C and on the following day when C tells her to be with him, she refuses. Laughable, isn’t it? Finally she tells C that though she will always love him, her heart belongs to D and hence B and D! That’s not all. S wants to get back together with D again but as he chooses B now, their friendship gets affected. Oh and due to her own meddlesome nature, S gets into a dispute with N as well. Honestly, when will this girl ever change?

In the recent episode, S totally sabotages her cousin’s chance to pursue her dream, the very same cousin whom she had lectured about how they were family and all in the previous episode. And, why did she do it? Simply because, she didn’t have anything else to do with her life! Doesn’t her attitdue make you want to slap her? Meanwhile B doesn’t want to invite N or S to her and D’s coming out as a couple event. Why she makes this choice is completely beyond me. But, as always everyone gather at the party and a huge bomb of information is dropped.

B or S have never matured, B is still the same as she was in high school. No matter how many relationships she has been through and how many problems she has faced, we can see no level of maturity. I agree there have been parts when I felt so sorry for her that I cried but then she goes back to being her high school self again and I forget it all. And, S, well it seems like friends and family mean nothing to her. The only person she cares for appears to be herself. But, N and C, they are a different story. It’s true that whenever a new girl arrives N gets involved with her and might not think of his friends but he is there for them at the end. And, C is always the guy whom your heart goes out to. He has changed a lot since high school as well, from being the spoilt, bad-boy in first season, he seems like a gentleman now.

So this is the basic, brief story. In between there are so many parts that have been left. Hard to keep track right? The dating circle goes on revolving round the five of them and any new character that appears on the show seems to have a negative motive and gets thrown out at the end. I sometimes wonder why I still watch this show, and even though there is no answer, I just can’t give it up. Story of my life!

Big city or countryside

19 Apr

It is better for children to grow up in the countryside than in a big city. I disagree with this statement. Growing up in a big city has a lot of benefits than doing so in countryside.

First and foremost, the development. Health care, education, entertainment, transportation; every aspect in general is better in city. Generally, the good schools and colleges are usually located in big cities. People from countryside also end up coming to cities to pursue their higher education. Same with the hospitals and clinics. From diagnosis to treatment, the health service is far better as compared to the countryside. And, not to forget, different parks, museums, libraries, etc. are present for the kids to enjoy.

Secondly, there is technology and it’s advancement. In today’s world, knowledge of technology and it’s advancement has become a must. All the new gadgets and services are generally concentrated in the big cities so children can have knowledge about these from the start. Furthermore, the provisions for extra-curricular activities, like sports, singing, dancing, etc. are more pronounced in cities. Summer and winter camps, training institutions and everything help to sharpen the children’s skills from the very beginning. Ultimately, all of this aids them to secure a bright future.

However, growing in countryside also has its advantages. Peaceful and fresh environment sounds better than the noisy cities. Growing up in an area filled with pure natural beauty indeed proves to be a better option than among huge buildings.

To summarize it, I would say that growing up in big cities is better than growing up in countryside.

Technology reduces thinking capacity (GRE)

18 Apr

Technology, the thing on which people depend for their lives after air, water and food! Living in such a world, it is basically impossible to imagine us devoid of any technical development. Widespread and rapid progress in technology obviously has uncountable benefits; it has definitely made our lives far more comfortable and easier than each previous day. But, the fact that people have become more dependent and somewhat lazy as well cannot be overlooked. Rather than using own creative ideas to get through a problem, we all rely massively on technology.

Let us think about how far technical development has gone; the height of development is so huge that we can’t possibly even realize it. Devices with mental and logical capabilities are not a new thing for us; computers are only just an example. The problem with such devices is that though they help greatly by saving our time and doing all the hard work for us, they have weakened thinking capacity of people. Obviously, if you have something else take care of the problems, why even bother trying to do that yourself! This has become our viewpoint. With each passing day, we are becoming more dependent on technology. In fact, so much dependent that eras prior to technology seems to be from alien world. During early school years, when students are not allowed to use calculator for basic mathematical problem solving, everyone can recite the multiplication tables, can easily answer what twelve times eleven equals. But, once they lay their hands on calculators, even seven times four confuses and makes them compelled to check the result. This dependency only keeps on growing.

Then, of course, there is internet; greatest joy and pride of those who have access to it. Worldwide search engines have ensured information about something from any part of the world is accessible to people. Everything you need to know is simply a click away! The vivid effect of this fact on people cannot be ignored. Since answer to almost every question or problem can be found in the internet, thinking about it by oneself feels unnecessary. You get a problem in a program code you are trying to write, simply input your query to the giant search engine. Viola! Problem solved and you didn’t even have to rack your brains for it. Starting to write a book report without going through a handful of old available similar reports on the web first seems idiotic. Think less, depend more has almost become our motto now.

No matter how luxurious our lives have become, due to all the advancement in technology, the point that thinking power of people is waning and relying heavily on technology is soaring can’t be denied. It is undisputable; this dependency can cause great adversity to human themselves in near future. Sure the world is a better place to live in now but the fact still remains that new services and devices have aided in making people reluctant to make use of their mental capability. Thus, we can easily conclude that development in technology has reduced thinking capacity of people.

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